Friday, April 9, 2010

A new kind of life and Follow Friday April 9th

So many things have changed for me lately. Life has taken a turn. There is a kind of peacefulness that has fallen on my house that hasn't been here in a very long time. I hoped for it, but never expected it. It seems as though we have walked through a door and things have changed. Our family has found a new kind of normal and it is nice, we are all still adjusting but moving forward which is always good. It is new and different and I am not complaining at all.

For such a long time the only focus that I have had has been my kids. I know that I am not the only mom that this has happened to. I am not sure if my struggle with infertility propelled me into this role or if it is just who I am. I have always been the one that when the friends get together or invite me out I usually decline.

I hate leaving the kids for several reasons. One is that there are usually so bad I hate to inflict them on someone else (not really but kind of) Two, it seems as soon as I walk out the door all Hell breaks loose and my getting a break is never worth what I have to deal with when I get back home. Three is that I am kind of a homebody. When I became a mom that was kind of it for me. Don't get me wrong I love hanging out with the girls, having a drink or coffee but usually its only when the kids or at school or off at a sleepover. I enjoy spending time with my girlfriends but I prefer it when its in my backyard and all the kids are playing together and I am in my element.

I had also fallen into the mommy trap, you know the one. Where you start to think that all you can do is clean house, run errands, cook, make play dates, read books, do homework and essentially make your family happy. I am not saying that this is a bad thing but we all know that there is a point that we tend to loose ourselves. I gave up working a long time ago to be a SAHM. I wanted to be the supermom the ideal June Cleaver. It has since occurred to me that most women of the 50's and 60's must have been either heavily medicated or drinking most of the alcohol that they were marinating dinner with! My house is never perfect and laundry is never done but I try.

About a month ago after a lot of hemming and hawing on my part I decided to take on a new venture, something that everyone said was perfect for me and that I would be perfect for. I am now a Macaroni Kid Publisher Mom along with the BFF we are publishing for Macaroni Kid Golden Triangle it is amazing. I forgot how much I love working. Research is something I enjoy. Writing was once something I longed to do full time even though I am quite rusty. This is turning out to be such a rewarding experience. I have spent so many years wanting to find something else to do, but I knew that I needed to be available in case the kids were sick or if I was needed and my health has always been an obstacle as well. Macaroni Kid has been something that I have been able to fit in to my schedule. I am still learning balance. I have dissapeared from the twitterverse and my blog has been a little neglected but I know that as time goes by I will be able to find a place for all of it. Thanks to everyone who has supported and encouraged me to do this. I am loving it. It is awesome and if you would like to know more.. just ask!!!

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13 comments:

Buttons and Bows said...

I am here from FF. So glad to meet you.
Would you love to make some extra money?
I have a huge opportunity on my blog.
Please stop by and follow me back.
Rebecca
@ Buttons and Bows
Happy Friday Follow

Mom et al said...

Hi, I'm your newest Friday Follower!

Come visit me at mom-et-al.com

-Maria

The Beckers said...

I am your newest follower from FF. I know exactly what you mean. My house is never clean, laundry never completely done, dinner is never at the same time each night. But I do what I can!
You can find me at http://babyinthebigcity.blogspot.com Followbacks are appreciated!

Have a happy friday!

Marissa O. said...

Hi following from FF! i hope you will come and check out me new blog and support it! http://thereviewstew.blogspot.com

thanks!
marissa
http://thereviewstew.blogspot.com
http://the-hardest-job-on-earth.blogspot.com

Kelli @ writing the waves said...

I just looked at the Mac Kid site - cool idea! I do some freelance writing from home so you've definitely peaked my interest. Thanks for sharing!

Happy FF! Newly following you!

Mellisa said...

I found you on friday follow! Love your site and I am now a follower! I hope you can stop by my site sometime!
Mellisa
www.funsavingmoney.net

Erin said...

Blogger ate my comment. I'm a PM too. I love it. I hope you'll come check out my story soon at http://www.amundsenhouseofchaos.com/351/ Have a great weekend.

Santa's Gift Shoppe and Ideas said...

Hi..I’m Barb from Fri. Follow. I am your newest follower. I hope you will get a chance to visit my blog @ santasgiftshoppe.blogspot.com
& get inspired by something for your family/home. I hope you will follow me as well.

mommyof4 said...

I am glad to hear things are going well for you! Have a great weekend!
Kat

Debrah said...

I am following you back!
What a wonderful thing to have found something to help complete you. I am happy for you!

Adoption of Jane said...

Congrats!! I totally get what you mean about falling into the Rhythm of staying home and going through the motions! Really good to hear you found an awesome job... i've heard great things from my bloggy galpals about the project!

CRAZYMOM said...

Better late than never, I hope. It takes me a while to make the rounds sometimes. :)

I totally get what you are saying about being a homebody and being the one to decline invitations...forgetting that there is more than just a mom under my sweats. That's me to a T. Actually, That's why I am blogging. It is so great to think again, even if I am a but rusty at it. :)

I am glad things are going well for you.

Jeanette Huston said...

Following you from MBC

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Jeanette Huston